Being free to win at the life you want
A proven method to guiding a man to achieving his goals
A life worth living
You come home as you have hundreds of time, but this time it hits you: You have a home, a job, and friends. Your basic needs are handled. You are surviving… so what’s wrong?
Your life is not the way you planned it.
The joy, passion, and hope eroded. Left with the shell of a life, empty of the substance that gives it meaning you feel stuck. You recall the forgotten dreams you had, the ones you shared with your old friends. The dreams of what your life would become.
You are not broken. It is not written in stone.
You have reached a plateau. Everything you learned and did brought you to this place… you made it. Now it’s time to make something else, something that serves a deeper part of you.
You’re smart; you know if you want a different outcome, you and your actions need to change. Not knowing how to make this shift is not your fault. You were not given the skills to create that remarkable life. Yet.
How to find and live your purpose with passion, how to create that relationship with your dream partner, and how to contribute your unique gifts is much easier when you have experienced guidance. When you have another man watching your back as he supports you in crafting what you want, life goes from constant struggle to excited anticipation.
Sure, you still have your bad days, yet when you possess a deep connection to YOUR purpose and passion, you are not alone. You also have the skills to get out of a hole – the skills to create what you REALLY want.
At the end of the day, do you feel alone?
What is at risk?
What happens if you don’t step out of the cycle you are in? What happens if you just let life come to you, wishing that it would bring you what you want?
There is some comfort in acceptance of your fate. You could surrender to whatever happens. The immediate anxiety of creating change might lessen. Yet, you know some day you will wake up and feel more angst for wasting more time.
You may fail.
However, you took action. Some part of you knows that even if the action you took wasn’t the perfect step to take, it got you off your ass. The next action is easier…
Go beyond the quick fix of
- the intellectual understanding on why your life isn’t what you want
- just being held accountable
- some arbitrary model of how you should be
- hooking you into a system that you need to keep returning to if you are to succeed
Virtually all men have a resistance to ‘emotions.’ Women tell us we have it wrong… they often tell us how to get it right. We try, and it still doesn’t work. Both women and men assume it’s the man. It’s not. It’s the emotional training men received.
As men, our mothers raised us. Our emotional education continued with our friends, then moved on to our girlfriends. All this occurring in a culture that for hundreds of years had mothers home raising the kids, as the fathers were at work and not around to model masculine emotions.
We all grew to assume that men’s emotions are the same as women’s. Sure, we are more alike than different. Yet the ways we are dissimilar significantly influence a relationship. Men can only learn genuine masculine emotional presence from other men. When he does, women are naturally attracted to him. Relationships shift from a constant struggle to a dance of romance.
Relationships that work
Discovering how to develop a fulfilling relationship involves activating skills buried within you. Relating to a woman in a way that naturally draws both of you closer, in ways that are fun and easy will become natural.
Exchanging of all those ‘techniques’ that tell you how to behave for the skill of being with another person will transform your life. You will have a skill set few men possess and a relationship you thought unattainable.
What Mentoring Men does different
- we guide as you remove your limitations
- then assist you create deep and sustainable wins
- it is built on years of teaching men how to create brotherhood
- help you release, learn, heal and then create through:
– proven exercises and homework
– short cuts to success
– going beyond learning a new explanation to embodying new way of being
Shorten you learning curve
You can learn from books, from your mistakes, from others who don’t have a life – or you can learn from men who for decades did whatever they needed to succeed as their own man. These men made every imaginable mistake.
Frustrated with the standard approach, they built a program that encourages men to identify and create the life they want, not mimic society. They constructed a set of principles and skills that allow a man to sculpture his own remarkable life.
Worried about bills rather than excited about work?
Go beyond macho
You don’t need to do it alone. Seeking qualified assistance takes courage.
Letting others ‘give you advice’ has its limitations. Given a suggestion that solves your current dilemma may sound good, but it rarely addresses the underlying issue.
Do what successful men do; admit to what they don’t know and find the support they need. You want a life and relationships that give you energy—find others who are out in front creating their own success.
Give up the models that don’t work. Try on ones that might. Keep what works.
Either you get help or I’m gone
Did a woman ever say that to you?
A struggling relationship is a catalyst for many men. We want to succeed even to the point of attempting to relate emotionally the way our partners suggest. The benefits of just learning to be sensitive is short lived. Either we sabotage the relationship or we give up it because it doesn’t work for us.
After trying what feels like all our options, we look for something out of the box. We look at asking men who walked this road ahead of us.
Using Mentoring Men you discover new orientations and skills that shift from repelling what you want to attracting what you want. You start thriving at work and home. Men respect you. Women are attracted to you.
Your dates or your partner now have something to be attracted to—they have you. Your deeper communications leads to intimacy that naturally brings the best sex you ever had.
Is the life you created not the life you want?
As boys, we explore. As young men, we go off on adventures, letting life shape us. Then we start to earn for more. Sure, we still want to have fun.
At some point in a man’s evolution, a deep desire for more emerges. The thrill of creating surpasses the thrill of adventure. You want to build a life, a career, and a contribution. You want to take all you learned, meld it with your purpose to give the planet a gift that is uniquely yours.
Adventures can be solo experiences. Your contribution needs others. It also requires you to grow in ways unimaginable before this new journey. You outgrow the need for independence for a need for collaboration. You can travel the world by yourself. You can create a new world with the assistance of others.
The men who seek assistance are the one who succeed. They also have fewer struggles and more fun. They learn that life is a team sport.
Shift your foundation
Who you are as a man determines how you succeed in business, relationships, and life; when change occurs on this deep level all else shifts.
There are amazing books, programs, and teachers that will teach you powerful techniques. I use many of them for others and myself. Yet when my foundation as a man was weak, the impact of these offerings was weak. Every week we see in our groups when a man shifts into standing up as his own man, the need for much of the other work magically disappears.
In my clinic years ago, I realized that the cause of the problem rarely existed where the symptom manifested. If we were to help the client heal, we had to address the underlying cause(s).
We don’t realize that much of our angst comes from the stress and trauma of our childhood and cultural imprinting. These two restraints are address in your Mentoring Men Program.
Few boys or men had a mentor or role model to guide him.
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Why should I trust you?
We all started out trying to dig ourselves out of our holes alone, then when we were willing to risk and asked for help our progress accelerated. Opening up for any man can feel risking, we know. It still can be for us. We just had the good fortune to experience the benefits of taking risks.
Where does the Mentoring Men Program (MMP) go beyond a coaching program?
We build on what a good coaching program delivers—then we add what years of working in men’s groups, men’s trainings, and assorted therapies taught us. For example, we learned that it’s not enough for you head to know. Your body and actions need to be aligned.
Couldn’t I get much of this from books, websites and trainings?
Much of the concepts are in books, including our book, Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence. We support men in doing it themselves. MMP is for the man who wants the fast track.
How you will step beyond the fear so many man have and seek help?
At Free to Win we break the old model of being a man. We start with the assumption that you aren’t—bad, broken or doomed. It’s just you didn’t get the models or teachings that would guide you to succeed as your own man.
Our programs come from thousands of hours of working with all kinds of men in numerous situations. Each man is unique with unique needs, we are able to adapt our principles and skills to so each man can win.
We stepped out of the outmoded model of masculinity to create a success model. Being a man is not a pathology. Our approach is not the latest pop psychology or self-help theory. Nor is it some dead academic hypothesis of what a man should be. Our programs come from field-testing that began with ourselves. Then went on to working with hundreds of men.
The Mentoring Men Program is not mothering. We love our mothers, but they aren’t men. As men we often need a masculine push, then the compassion of a sincere honoring for the risk we took. We outgrow a need for mothering when we leave home.
We don’t believe in the boot-camp approach to men’s work. Deprivation and confrontation does work and has a place. We found those changes can be short lived. For some men this approach can create more stress and trauma than releases.
It’s not about beating it out of you. It’s about assisting you evoke out your greatness. We know it’s in you. The art of our work is how to help you most effectively manifest it.
How well has your training on how to succeed with women and relationships worked for you?
Develop emotional strength
It’s not an oxymoron. As men, we can be strong, vulnerable and emotionally. We can be emotional elite athletes.
After a lifetime of being out of emotional shape, it does take some work and possibly a little sweat to get into shape. Yet after a while, workouts, and your emotional interaction start being fun. You realize how to roll with the punches, how to get up when knocked down.
You learn that getting slammed around can be just part of playing full out. The joy of playing full out exceeds the concern about any possible injuries. Injury prevention, recovery, and resiliency naturally increase as you increase your emotional strength.
You don’t need us
That is our goal.
We believe that within you is the essence of what you need. Our job is to encourage that out and train you master your gifts. Because you are just being who you are, there will be little need for continued support. True, you might seek others and us to enhance your mastery. You won’t need others to succeed let alone survive.
We would love to support you in creating your own free, kickass men’s group. There is no better ongoing support than a strong men’s group.
Have you done what is necessary to be happy? Have you created the life what you want?
You might think, why Owen? What can this guy can give me?
That’s a good question. I often ask myself that. What does 38 years of living change give me? It might speak to how desperate I was when I started at 22.
Well, it certainly shows me that I’m one determined man. I’ve invested over $100,000 in personal and professional development that form the foundation of my shift from a man whose life sucked to a being a man.
I grew up mastering failure. With my speech impediment, shyness and learning struggles there was nothing I succeeded at doing. Walking on my hands was easier than speaking to girls. Getting picked on became a regular experience until I learned to fight back in junior high. In high school, I found what I was good at—instigation and juvenile delinquency.
After graduating from college my travels started to show me that no matter where I went, I was still the same person. Every new location brought similar experiences, specifically unsatisfying relationships with women. Ending up in Boulder, CO I dove into all I could to crack open a tight body and mind. Within a year, I began to feel free—something I never felt before. Relationships shifted without any extra effort. Suddenly my purpose showed up bringing a deep passion.
Moving to Phoenix, AZ to start a holistic medical clinic, I began graduate school. In a speed-reading course at the school, I learned I was dyslexic. Immediately I set out to heal it. Using out of the box techniques, I saw quick improvements. When I realized I had Asperger’s Syndrome, I understood the root of so many of my problems. I then added it to the list of things to heal.
Turning the corner on my mental challenges, I realized I never felt like a man. Figuring if I could heal much of my mental issues, I could learn how to be a man. I realized what was missing in my life was close relationships with men so I helped start a series of free men’s groups in Arizona, California, and then Idaho. Sometime in the 19 years of working with men, I felt able to say I’m a man.
I also learned that I might be one of the few men who had mental challenges, yet I was like every other man I met. We weren’t winning as our own man.
One of the gifts of dyslexia is finding unique solutions to common problems. The work I developed around men built on all the work many great men did for men, wove in all my training in somatic psychology, ancient traditions, postgraduate psychotherapy training, business, and couples training.
The success of my latest men’s group, the Sandpoint Men’s Group far exceeded what I envisioned when I invited 11 men in 2005. After over 150 men participating in our what is now four groups, a documentary film on the group, a book, success with our Free to Win Two Day Experience trainings, and the growth of our model of working with men I now know what we offer works.
A dozen years ago, I was a lead trainer for an 18 month, 500 hour in person coaching program. I resisted coaching until I saw how when approached from a deep level huge change is possible. That program and my coaching is part of my inspiration to create the Mentoring Men Program.
It would be an honor to work with you in creating that remarkable life you want.
Is communicating with a woman more failures than successes?
We don’t do one-time sessions. As tempting as it is, we don’t want to fix your crisis. We want to go to what caused it. Without the cause addressed, the crisis will return.
To best use your investment we created a three-tiered system. Each module goes deeper and builds more success. It is very possible that first module will exceed you what you want.
Each module is 12 weeks – with a bonus week. We take what you need then apply a system of principles and skills to free you so that you have more room to win. We do this as we are guiding you in winning right from the start.
Much of what we do is take you deeper into what was hidden, so you can free yourself. We ask questions that do more than have you think. We accept you for who you are in the moment… even when you might be judging yourself in the harshest terms.
My may cry with you. We surely will laugh with you.
Being the rebels we are, we don’t let the kickass structure we created get in the way. Part of our job is helping you not be your past and co-create a remarkable future for you. Before anything, we hold a space for you to be amazing.
For example, if one of your goals is to create an awesome relationship with a woman. We will have you discover your awesomeness as you develop the basic skills to interact with women in a way that is fun. Men quickly learn that what they hid might be their most precious gift.
We start with an agreement so we all know what is expected. Your mentoring sessions are once per week and hour long.
We give you homework that is unique to you and your goals. We know, homework sucks—this homework won’t be like what you did in school.
You are encouraged to check in through the week. We have your back. We want you to succeed quickly and powerfully.
Receive the benefits of Mentoring Men
I love distilling the best of what works, then tweaking it for the man.
Is being in a group or at a training with other men more than you can want now… yet you want to shift your life?
We understand that embarking on this journey may feel risking at first. You might be thinking, OK, these guys have helped hundreds before me, but can the assist me?
We might not know if we are the best champion for your success. Which is one reason we have you fill out an application, if we believe we can help, we will set up the first session.
To support you making the investment, we will refund the first month if you don’t see success and have done your homework.
Build on what you’ve created… use the Mentoring Men Program to do more than coach you. Have it be your guide into creating that great life you dreamt of having. That life where you wake up excited about what you are doing that day. That life where you come home to true friends and a partner or women you are dating that get you.
Walk into a room feeling as if you belong. Know that whatever happens, you will be OK. Seek out experiences that stretch you because it’s fun.
Invest in your most precious investment—your life as your own man. Join other men who benefited from Free to Win.
Be free to win… start winning today.
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Remember, you can contact us first to discover how we can serve you. We only work with men where we can add value.
The ancient Greeks developed mentoring; we upgraded it to give men what is missing.
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